I know it might seem odd to some of you ~ That while my own life is in shambles, I am working towards becoming a life coach. It’s laughable, really. But I’m still doing it. And I still believe I have value to offer, maybe even moreso because of my struggles, and have shown exactly that with those I have worked with already.
Not surprisingly, many that I follow in this line of work, have at one time or another had major life-upsetting challenges. Sometimes it’s exactly what we need for the universe to help set our purpose in greater motion. I know that’s how I feel, and it’s this passion that keeps me sane and ever moving forward.
But you still might be wondering what I could possibly know about being a life coach. Well possibly nothing. Ha! But I’m going to tell you what I know about life:
I know what it’s like to face deep heartache and loss. I know how difficult it can be to smile. I know what it’s like to acknowledge and accept being unable to fix something that’s broken. I know what it’s like to spend years in an internal battle and then to make hard but necessary decisions as a result. I know what it’s like to do everything in my power to avoid it, and what it’s like to dig deeper and give more even when I felt desperately empty. I know what it’s like to be used and abused, and manipulated. I understand sadness, and how defeating it is to be unwanted. I have become best friends with loneliness. I know what it’s like to live with anxiety – both catastrophizing most scenarios and struggling with motivation. I know what it’s like to lay on my bed for 5 hours because I can’t make that first move to get up. I know what it’s like to walk away from something that was supposed to be forever, experience lies being told about me, and feel the pinch of ever increasing debt as I face life on my own and ever growing legal bills. I know what it’s like to be betrayed, how deeply that hurts and how difficult it is to heal from. I know what it’s like to recognize that my village is not what it once was. I know what it’s like to lose trust, in everyone, especially myself. I know what it’s like to be lied to, seriously and brutally lied to. And because of that, I know what it’s like to be fooled. I have been a fool, and I know how much that hurts. I understand how it feels to not be worth it, and to be told and shown that repeatedly. I know what it means to use all of my energy for the necessities (work and kids, and their activities) and be completely tapped out of social and emotional energy for most everything else. I know what it means to recognize it’s time to step back and take a break (I went on leave from work from June-September). I know what it means to feel the worry that despite all my efforts, I’m somehow failing as a parent. Oh that one’s difficult to put out there. As an empath, I know what it means to feel the feelings of other people and situations, and how heavy that can be at times. I know what it’s like to have a therapist (she’s amazing). I know what it means to need to be held. Just held. Because I know what it means to be broken and lost.
But in spite of all that, here’s what else I know:
I know what it means to give and feel love. I know how it feels to genuinely smile, and laugh. Oh the laughter is magic. I know what it’s like to believe that I have a greater purpose. That I have the right to ask and the responsibility to fight for what I want in life. To feel at my core that I am deserving of it all, and more. I know what it’s like to feel wanted. I know what it’s like to find a way to make bold decisions despite wanting to crumble. I’ve had moments where I didn’t feel so lonely. I’ve had times where I’ve gotten a break from the anxiety. I know what it’s like to 5-4-3-2-1 myself out of bed or into the shower, or to start chores, etc., to make a plan and feel productive. I know what it’s like to feel happier with where my life is headed than I have felt in years. And I know what it means to feel like the farther away I get from where I was, the more clarity and potential I see. I know what it’s like to feel blessed, to be grateful. I know what it’s like to receive financial support. I know what it’s like to develop new friendships and organize a new village. And I know what it’s like to allow myself to be particular with how I spend my time and who I spend it with. I know what it’s like to love time with myself, and to spend that time working towards my goals. I know what it’s like to dream big….I mean REALLY big. And I know what it’s like to see it and feel it, taste it almost, and believe that achieving it all is absolutely possible. Somehow, I even know what it’s like to trust myself and a few specific others, even just a little bit. And yes, it is both liberating and terrifying. I know what it means to be worth it, and to be told and shown that I am. I know what it means to be honest. I know what it’s like to keep getting up and going to work everyday. I know what it means to advocate for my children, and to feel their unwavering love for and support of me. To know I am not failing them. I know what it’s like to honour my broken pieces and just sit in my loneliness, understanding that it all has purpose. I know what it’s like to be held. As an empath, I know how to feel what you are feeling and I know how beautiful that can be. Thanks to all this and my amazing therapist, I know what it means to be recovering.
I am Strong. Fierce. Passionate.
That’s what I know and continue to learn about life ~ what it means to keep moving forward despite repeated attempts to get me down. I know what it means to refuse to let that happen. And I want to help you do the same. I want to help you work through it all, discover what you really want from your life, and create a plan to make it happen. Because it’s not just in me, it’s in you too. I see it in all of us.
Not only do I genuinely care about people and their wellbeing, and love them simply because they exist, I am also an excellent listener with great ideas, someone who thinks outside the box. I don’t advise you according to how I think you should live but rather, based on the things you want and see for yourself. The things that will help you achieve your greatest success. I don’t just listen to what you say, I also listen to what you don’t say. And I will never simply tell you what you want to hear – get ready for some bold but kind truth. We do no favours by being coy.
There’s more here….there is purpose and goodness and a hell of a lot of passion just waiting to be discovered. That’s what I know about life.
And that’s what I bring to my coaching.
That’s what I’ll bring to you.
**I am currently working towards my life coaching certification through Robbins-Madanes Training with Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes**